So I finally broke down and purchased my first pair of High Waisted jeans, with stretch.  You know what?  I was pleasantly surprised!  It actually fit nicely and held me in where my sags and bulges once spilled over, kind of like wearing Spanx!! Not so bad!!  This time around, this high waisted silhouette is actually useful in camouflaging certain body defects.  I started wearing shorter boxy tops at first, ones that came to the high hip, but later,  I got brave and started tucking in my shirts like I used to!  This time I think it's actually working!!  Yay!!